The Gloves Are Coming Off


Consider the saying ‘the gloves are coming off’.

It’s a fighting term from boxing. When the gloves come off and bare fists are used for striking the opponent the dirty, bloodier fighting begins.

Although historically, traditionally and currently that was and is the meaning, it doesn’t have to stay that way forever.

Another meaning can emerge from the same phrase.

Removing the gloves could also mean someone is refusing to fight any more.

Both meanings of the same phrase can coexist. One of the meanings doesn’t have to be retired or deleted or beaten to death out of existence.

You know of course, ‘beaten to death’ doesn’t necessarily mean that someone died. Or even that it involved a living being. It can also refer to spoken or written ideas.

‘Stop beating a dead horse’. Somebody had to be filled with rage to beat a horse to death and to keep up the beating even after the horse expired.

Or more likely it meant a dead horse couldn’t work any more than it already was working, no matter how many times you beat the horse. The horse was exhausted, so stop beating the dead horse.


I’m not a fighter by nature. Most people are in one way or another. All my life people tried to force me to fight when I didn’t want to. I didn’t like anything about fighting. Not watching it, not doing it, not hearing it, not being around others who liked to provoke a fight, then sit back and watch the fireworks as if they had done nothing wrong and I never liked the result.

No one went home happy. There were regrets and blame all around but to what end? No end. There was no meaning to it, except that for some they just needed a channel to let out their meanness. And what made them so mean? I’ve been watching it all my life and I still don’t know.

People call it a mean streak. Do we all have one? Probably but in varying degrees.

Maybe it has to do with patience. Some people have inordinate amount of patience with the inanimate chores and tasks, but have none when it comes to people or any kind of animal. Others with all or some animals except humans. Still others have no patience with certain types of behaviors, either rage when they see it emerge in others, or they go looking for it with the goal of destroying it when it appears.

This happens in families and all areas of communication in all facets of societies and cultures. Gender doesn’t matter, but I don’t know if it’s equal. Sexual orientation shouldn’t matter if gender doesn’t, but within certain orientations there may be differences.

Age may be a factor in mitigating it, with the middle ages being more in control of stopping it once it starts. But there are consequences for that too. No one goes home unscathed because someone self-regulated midstream. That need to be expressed comes out in many other ways which makes everybody know the night was not over.

Apologies don’t work even when a person requests one; all it does is open the door to a tirade that encompasses the person’s entire life and everybody in it and every slight the person endured.

Lacking the ability to cope with perceived slights and rejections real or exaggerated and finding outlets to aggressively express them appears to me to be genetically determined, not necessarily hereditary.

What makes one child calm and the other explosive is primarily a function of DNA, but having nothing to do with factors that create prejudice and discrimination.

So everyone lives with it because those who exhibit the signs of disruption can’t help themselves. They were born that way.

I’m not one of the subscribers to infants being born with a blank slate for brains, all infants being equal at birth, and it’s their interaction and observations in life that form everything about them, that makes them individuals.

Why they still teach that prejudice in college like it was a necessary history, when everyone knows that it’s the history not the newly discovered facts disputing a faulty premise that will be remembered. To whose benefit?

Well I can think of one with not much effort. Responsibility for the self. It’s not your heredity or DNA or any preexisting conditions that determine your behavior. It’s you. How you interpret and interact with your environment determines the type of person you become.

That’s a popular thesis accepted by many, especially when dealing with criminal aka law-breaking behavior that harms others.

You are not your parents or siblings.

Ever notice how people use the word sibling(s) to replace brother and sister as if they don’t have a gender? I have a sister and brothers. That’s how I was raised, not by calling them siblings or siblings-in-law. That’s the British controlling the words of all English speaking people.

You are not your race.

You are not your gender.

You are not your ethnicity.

You are not your handicaps.

You are not your socio-economic status.

You are you and responsible only for you and your behavior.

Sounds not bad, pretty good actually. Well, that’s how the English were raised and how they raised up every country, territory and island that they colonized by bringing them into their commonwealth plan for nations – all nations. All people are equal under God and the law. Of course that was in theory, given that all distant groups learn and accept change the same way. That did not turn out so well in practice.

If you violated any of those laws it was on you and you alone to atone. Consequently the British became big on punishment to make the individuals obey the law and not misbehave.

The British must not forget that to impose their design onto others, they had to invade them and invasion is war, thus many died and suffered as a result. That’s not something the world needs to support right now in any demographic that dares to repeat that colonialism history.

Palestine is a prime current example of history repeating itself with Jews being the colonizers of the Palestinians.

Deeply emotional vs highly emotional. One explodes inside the organism and the other explodes outside the organism.

Patience can mean settle yourself down; it doesn’t necessarily mean wait.

By Sharon Lee Davies-Tight, artist, writer, chef

Chef Davies-Tight™. The Animal-Free Chef™. ANIMAL-FREE SOUS-CHEF™. FAT-FREE CHEF™. Word Warrior Davies-Tight™. HAPPY WHITE HORSE™. SHARON ON THE NEWS™. BIRTH OF A SEED™. Till now and forever © Sharon Lee Davies-Tight, Artist, Author, Animal-Free Chef, Activist. ARCHITECT of 5 PRINCIPLES TO A BETTER LIFE™ & MAINSTREAM ANIMAL-FREE CUISINE™.

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