Steve and I decided that we’re going to call our over fifty year marriage a partnership instead of a marriage. The words husband and wife carry too much sexist baggage. Hope the gays won’t protest our use of ‘their’ word.
I think there’s too much of a religious connotation to the pairing of two people, giving to one all or most of the power and the other barely none. That saying, “the hand that rocks the cradle rules the word” is an example of perceived control the woman has over the children, when historically and currently, a good wife raises his children in his likeness, not hers. The good wife raises her daughters in her likeness, which is subservient to his.
We’re just making a minor adjustment to our relationship. We’re both in our seventies, which proves it’s never too late to change your mind.